The Mirror, the Marriage & the Moment That Rewrote Everything
What if your greatest heartbreak isn’t just a wound—it’s a portal to your deepest healing?
In this intimate and powerful episode of Unleashed & Empowered, I sit down with the courageous Jes Murphy—coach, relationship alchemist, and co-founder of Align & Connect.
We lean into Jes’s journey of becoming a single mother rolling through identity collapse, to rediscovering love, partnership, and sovereignty alongside her husband-wisdom mirror, Wes. Together, they dismantle the illusion that love is about merging, and reveal how it’s really about remembering and re-emerging.
From addictions, shadow cycles, human design epiphanies, and relational ruptures—to retreats, accountability, and soul-fuelled partnership—Jes unpacks what it takes to heal while holding space for someone else to heal. There’s no skipping the inner work in this one.
If you’ve ever questioned whether your relationships are blocking or guiding your spiritual growth, this episode will feel like a deep exhale and a fierce mirror all in one.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- (01:16) The tipping point: when Jes felt like a “complete failure” as a single mum teaching at a Catholic school
- (02:29) The re-connection with Wes—and how their mutual brokenness sparked a joint soul journey
- (03:29) How addiction, projection, and shadow work showed up as hidden contracts in their love story
- (06:08) Diving into Human Design side-by-side—and how it revealed their relational blindspots
- (09:08) When your partner feels your emotional waves before you do—and why that’s both gift and mirror
- (13:32) Holding relational polarity: Jes’s feminine emerging as her masculine had to rest
- (15:43) The loop of protective “masculine mode” and the invitation to soften, surrender & be held
- (20:57) Worthiness, receiving, and dismantling the myth that “strong = doing it all alone”
- (23:54) How their couples work and retreats now integrate vulnerability, accountability & clarity
- (32:45) Imposter syndrome, over-certification, and the subtle strategies she used to validate herself
- (36:24) Rewriting the narrative of “proving worth” and strengthening her inner trust muscle
- (40:23) When “no business talk in bed” becomes boundary medicine for love and safety
- (46:31) Play, ritual, and re-claiming the joy of creation amid pressure and purpose
- (53:10) Stepping into radical receiving: trusting support, abundance, and belonging
- (57:15) Aligning business timing to her cycles, energy, and higher calling
About Jes Murphy – Co-Founder of Align & Connect, Relationship Alchemist & Feminine Guide
Jes Murphy is a heart-centred Women’s and Relationship Connection Coach, Hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner who supports women and couples in reconnecting with themselves first and each other. Her work blends subconscious healing, emotional safety, and honest self-discovery, creating the space for freedom and intimacy to flourish. Jes, alongside her husband Wes, assists clients 1:1 or as couples and hosts deeply transformative in-person retreats for women, men and couples. Jes also runs a nurturing online accountability journey for women ready for profound change. With warmth, openness, and authenticity at the core of her work, Jes' mission is to remind us that true connection begins within — and ripples outward into every relationship.
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